Regrets, I’ve had a few

Advice, Uncategorised

Day 25, biggest regret, 30 day blog challenge

In saying that I regret the small things is true but honestly I can’t regret that much because it lead me here.

To this place.

Here

I made mistakes, I jumped into love, I jumped into moving to a place I had no idea about. Then I got my heart broken.

And I moved back to London with a single small suitcase and started my life here. In London surrounded by friends and family. And now my family has grown, through my sister in law and my new in-laws.

So my silly mistakes lead me here

I am so proud of what I have achieved. I have a home, a house. Bricks and mortar that has my name on the mortgage. Renting in London is hard.

I have two gorgeous fur babies ( still hoping Manhattan comes back) so we are a pretty perfect little family. We have our ups and downs but we work. We love each other.

These silly mistakes and little regrets will never make me actually regret where I am.

And who I am.

I wish I hadn’t put up with a bully at work for so long. I regret not leaving my retail job sooner but again would I be here? Would I be doing a job I love if it wasn’t for those mistakes and regrets.

behaviour

I do regret my unkind words, my thoughtlessness that hurt people.

If I have ever been rude or unkind to you and it still hurts it because I didn’t know the power behind mind own words.

I am sorry.

It’s only as we age that we understand how hurtful we can be.

I don’t want to be hurtful so that definitely is a regret.

If you can make me laugh, I am yours

Advice, Personal Experience

Day 24, what attracts you in love, 30 day blog challenge.

Laughter is the way to my soul

It this supposed to be about love but actually it is about all the relationships I have had.

All my friends make me laugh, they all have funny stories to tell and we love seeing each other! There is often a bottle of wine and a catchup involved.

Humour makes the world go round

I grew up in a house full of laughter and joy! So when looking for a partner I wanted the same.

Gav makes me laugh like no one else. Belly laughs, teasing. Chuckling, snickering even Nelson Munst Ha Ha.

If a day goes buy without a snicker then that is a really odd day.

He is very funny, often crass, sometimes offensive which I don’t find so funny. If something silly happens we can often just look at each other and know what the joke is and why we find it funny.

Gav took this photo, it was a lovely cold sunny day and the coldest gust of wind blew

Things in common

I don’t think you need to have everything in common but a level playing field is always important. Gavin is a geek, he loves games: computer, board games, role play. He tries to include me but it’s not my cup of tea.

We do however love comic book shows, movies and Sci-Fi. So we look forward to going to the pictures ( cinema) ets and watching Netflix series!

We love food! We like eating out and cooking, take always. You name it we like to eat it! I link my favourite foods here.

Politics

I don’t want to get in to politics too much here. I am well versed in my opinions. Gav is a bit more conservative and I am more liberal but actually with Britain in the mess it is now we are definitely on the same page. Brexit brought us closer together and we read a lot about it, watched debates and followed all the lies. We were really passionate about it and still are.

We are firm remainers. We believe that we should never have been put in this position in the first place. Cameron was lazy and thought it was a given, Boris lied through his teeth and quite frankly should have been sacked. He bafoonery and bravado don’t stop me from seeing the coiled snake beneath.

Wow that was a little deep for what do you find attractive in someone but it’s true. Having someone who has the same core values not necessarily the same political party is intrinsic to a good relationship.

Can you be tall please

I also like tall men. It’s nothing to do with being heightest but actually that I am almost 5″8 so I am pretty tall myself.

I will never be cute in height but Gavin is 6″4 and to me the perfect height.

We met online, after my last relationship to an Aussie I new I wanted a relationship with someone British. I didn’t want to have to move again. So I asked for a Brit, which probably sounded xenophobic but was just about me not wanting to move again!

I also asked… could you be tall please?

Romantic conclusion

Laughter is truly key

Core values are similar

We love food and travel

We like our own space

What attracts you in a partner!

If I won the lottery?

Dreaming

Day 23, if you won the lotto, 30 day blog challenge.

If I won the lottery I am guessing they mean like the jackpot, what would I spend my money on.

The boring answer is property! I would spend my money on buying places all over the world.

I would have a flat or house in..,,,,

  • Val D’sere
  • Madrid
  • Mahe, Seychelles
  • London maybe two!!
  • Essex countryside
  • The Cotswolds
  • Edinburgh
  • Japan
  • New York

I would also make sure that my family’s homes were looked after too. I would help all of my family so they were of a comfortable situation.

I would fly everyone out to New York and Paris to do some shopping and just splurge on all thing we could never do!

Oh yes vintage Chanel bag you will be mine.

My dream would to start my own creative company filled with studios and creative spaces. To help other upcoming artists and creatives suceeed. I would put back into the places that need it.

This is a silly thought though. Would I be good. I hope so.

Would I give back to society, again I hope so.

Sorry it’s a short one I will make it up tomorrow I promise!

My worst habit, procrastinating

Personal Experience, Planning

Day 22 what’s your worst habit, 30 day blog challenge.

I thinks it’s everyone’s worst habit isn’t it?

Putting off things to do later or an a later day. This weekend has been wonderful. We had an amazing day walking in East London where I used to live!

It’s spring so it’s all about the bluebells. We then had an impromptu picnic in the park and had a mini pub crawl!

It was bloody wonderful.

Then the next day I did some wedding catch up with my bestie. It was great drinking, shopping laughing.

Sunday was a proper rest day. I had a big list of things to do but I left them all till today.

Procrastinating is definitely my worst habit

I always put things off it’s why I have to be a slave to my lists and bullet journal.

My list this weekend was small!

  • Plant my dahlias
  • Buy running shoes (yup)
  • Find wedding glasses ( think we found them)
  • Try making the favours ( failed but will try again
  • Clean up the garden
  • Wash and dry clothes for the week ahead
  • Answer work emails (done)
  • Gut the kitchen
  • Organise my art supplies
  • Dye napkins

Not a massive list for 4 days but today I need to these things in one.

Because I have procrastinated so much I have left the majority till the last minute. Too late.

I still plan to do it all, getting up at 9am has helped!

At work I have to stick to my list. I try an deal with problems straight away because when I put something off it builds up into a larger issue when it never needs to be.

So procrastinating is definitely my worst habit.

I need to just do it!

What’s your worst habit?

What makes me sad: Manhattan disappeared

Personal Experience

On Friday 6 weeks ago Manny went out and never came back.

She is a rescue and just your average grey tabby with yellowy pale green eyes and beautiful black paws.

I am heart broken that my tiny cat has run away or been injured or worse killed.

I can’t tell you how much I am lost without her. She is my fur baby and I have had her for 10 years. I m hoping she will be at home curled up in the bed giving me a bored expression. Or better cry and run at me!

I thought it might be cathartic to tell you about how I came to own a beautiful cat like Manhattan.

Finding Manhattan

I used to work in Jigsaw so long ago. I worked in many of the stores, some of which aren’t there anymore but the Islington one is and that was my main shop.

I was the assistant manager ther and my friend and colleague Marianna went out for a cigarette, next to the vets. Mariana lives animals she ran in off her break and said( I should warn you she is quite dramatic)

Dana I have seen the most beautiful cat and I want him!

She then described a man walking into the vets with a cage full of cats and kittens. So I told her that if they are bringing them in like that to the vets then they are likely to be destroyed so if she wants him she should ask.

Killing the cats

She ran back into the shop screaming they are going to kill the cats.

They had already destroyed one.

But we saved the rest. I told the vets that however many they had left I would take them home.

I took home Inca and Manhattan. They thought manny was the mum even though she couldn’t be much older than 2.

She was scared, malnourished and hissy. Then will time and love she turned into the sweetest cat. Friendly affectionate. She acted like a puppy always following us around the house.

Heartbroken

I can’t tell you how guilty I feel and how much I miss her little face. That little cat has comforted me so much in my life and never asked for a lot in return. If you pet as ever gone missing you know how painful it is.

I just want her back.

This is what makes me sad. Not knowing. I hope she is happy and healthy.

What makes you happy

Advice, Personal Experience

I think is pretty simple what makes me happy.

Gin

Friends and Family

Frank and Manhattan

Honesty and kindness

Nights in and nights out

My home and garden

Planning

Traveling

All about my tummy

 I think by know you know how much I love food. I will try anything twice, I say twice because you should always try something. Just because you don’t like it one way doesn’t mean you wont like it another.

I always try tofu, why I don’t know. Its gross. I have tried it fried, in soups. I will always try it but I just can get my head around it. Sorry, its just not worth the calories.

Lie no more

I love my bed. I used to lie in till 10-11 most Sundays. That was until we got frank. Who is happy to sleep in too but only if its near to you and he snores. So every weekend I am normally up at 7-8am which is completely unlike me. I love my bed. Its huge and high and my bedding is mostly from Jigsaw because they do the best linens.

My future Husband

Gav loves how simple it is to please me. He doesn’t bring me flowers home. He brings me La Duree macarons, blocks of cheese, Chinese buns, Portuguese custard tarts, BBQ Dreams noodle salad, tea stained eggs. We love food. We love eating out and he loves me to cook for him. I cooked a chicken aubergine curry the other night with baked cauliflower and he loved it. Said was the best aubergine he had ever had. As he hates aubergine. Now I have to make him eat courgettes again because they are my favourite.

He knows that although I have my eye on a few designer bags that actually what I really want is an amazing backpack. That is smart enough, but also if I want to run home with it is fits me well and doesn’t open or jiggle about too much. Gavin likes to tease.

He loves to torture me constantly in fact, this means that we end up laughing all the time. Not chuckling but belly laughing. He can also be very sweet and sensitive when he needs to be.

The fur babies

Manhattan was a rescue cat, she is the sweetest most loving cat anyone would want. Unfortunately she disappeared and I still can’t really talk about it.

She has got me through a lot in life and has been with me for 10 years which puts her age at 12 ish the vets didn’t know. Hopefully she will come back.

Frank was also a rescue. He didn’t come from a bad home but he does have some behaviour issues. We think something may of happened to him when he was a pup. He is joyful and sweet and completes us as a family.

Just the four of us is pretty perfect!

Honesty and kindness

I sound like a sap, I know but being good and kind is all that matters. People smiling makes you smile so why wouldn’t you want to perpetuate that!

Nights in Nights out

am not much of a social bunny.i live my friends but I don’t need to make more. Making time for you friends is so important. I do love going out but we generally tend to go for a nice meal then cocktails! We do dress up but we are not clubbing people.

I left my dancing shoes after university. I did go out a bit in Edinburgh but most of the time we just went down to the local which always closed when we were ready to leave!

But I always loved going home to my bed!

Home and Garden

I am a home bunny. I love going home from work. I love my nights, get home walk the dog, make dinner, eat watch Netflix. Talk about the wedding, I put on YouTube, Gav plays some games online. Wash my face and do my skincare and head to bed!

Although at the moment there is a lot more writing and photography involved.

Rinse, repeat and love it.

Me walking home has ended up with us meeting for a quick pint before we head home and then planning the weekend!

Planning

Oh how I love to plan. My bullet journal is my life. I have mentioned it before so I won’t keep harping in about it!

My favourite movie,

Advice, Uncategorised

Day 19, favourite movie, 30 day blog challenge!

There is a few

Calamity Jane, is probably my absolute favourite!

Princess Bride is a close second!

I love watching films! There is something very satisfying about being transported into a different time and place! I love transformation films.

When Calamity Jane gets a makeover as well as her cabin to the sound of ” a women’s touch” I love it. Even the feminist in me doesn’t care so much about the meaning of the song but Calamity Jane was the ultimate feminist not that this is what this film was about.

I live a makeover in a film.

If you asked me if I liked musicals I would say no, not really my cup of tea, but I do love them.

  • Calamity Jane
  • Moulin Rouge
  • Guys and dolls
  • Funny face
  • Fiddler on the roof
  • Hello Dolly
  • Half a sixpence
  • My fair lady

I loved them when I was younger, I guess it’s just the next step in Disney movies!

I loved Calamity so much because she was fiesty and a story teller. She was happy being lonely with her crush on Lieutenant Dan. And then she makes a mistake which turns into a friendship and the man who loves her finally steps forward and tell her he loves her.

He always did.

I am a big romantic.

I love love

I think it is completely precious and rare. So when you find it you need to either be good to it or let it go.

Movies about love are always just the beginning never the end. The beginning is the magical bit. The rest is the work and making it work part. Which has it magical moments thrown in.

I am lucky. All my closest friends have really amazing partners who I like, love and respect. We are a lucky group!

I even though I really love love and romance I do think it’s a private thing. Grand gestures mean nothing to me.

Nothing

Grand gestures are all show and no work. They are a bandaid on an amputation. If you need to do a grand gesture then there is a massive fault in your relationship.

Sorry

This was supposed to be about my favourite film and it turned into a rant about love!